Published on June 25th, 2017 | by Millennium Magazine Staff0
Pastor Paula White: The Place of Vulnerability
Human beings were created for fulfilling relationships with each other and with God. Relationships can greatly influence many aspects of our lives – even our destiny. Relationships are the currency of the kingdom. I want to go deeper into how relationships can create wrongful control of our soul that become ungodly. I am going to show you how to receive deliverance from ungodly relationships through Jesus Christ.
“When the Lord saw that Leah was unloved, He opened her womb;
but Rachal was barren.
So Leah conceived and bore a son and she called his name Reuben;
for she said ‘The Lord has surely looked on my affliction. Now, therefore, my husband will love me.’
Then she conceived again and bore a son, and said ‘Because the Lord has heard that I am unloved, He has therefore given me this son also, and she called his name Simeon.’
She conceived again and bore a son and said ‘Now this time my husband will become attached to me, because I have bore him three sons.’ Therefore, his name was called Levi.
And she conceived again and bore a son and said ‘Now, I will praise the Lord.’ Therefore, she called his name Judah. Then she stopped bearing.”
Genesis 29:31-35 (NKJV)
Life is relational. We are created for connection. A “soul-tie” is a cleaving together of two souls. It is a relationship whereby two souls are “joined” or “knitted together,” and in a sense become as one.
Leah is the older daughter of Laban, who deceitfully gave her in marriage to Jacob. Jacob was supposed to receive her younger sister Rachal for working for Laban for 7 years. Jacob loved Rachal so much that the 7 years passed like a day. But on the morning after the wedding, Jacob awoke to Leah.
Jacob does not value Leah, his wife. Laban does not value Leah, his daughter. This is a familiar story to every woman who feels she isn’t enough to her husband; every son who was told they were an accident by their parents; every brother or sister who found themselves at the lonely end of family dinners.
Three lines into our recollection of this story we can already trace the start of the sick cycle beginning in Leah’s life. Often times, the problems we live out as adults are formed from our childhood years.
Leah has a father who does not value or validate her. He judges her by the wrong standards – her outward beauty rather than her internal value. He uses her like a pawn, manipulating her for his own personal gain.
Why does Leah want Jacob’s love so bad? It is because she is chasing the love she did not receive from her own father.
It is a familiar story.
Her relentless desire to please and capture the affection of Jacob is an extension and projection of her broken relationship with Daddy. She wants what she didn’t get as a child.
When people are asked, “Why do you want to be close to another human being?” the answer is often one of three things:
So I wont be lonely.
So I wont feel unlovable.
So I wont feel afraid.
Many times the idols to which we find ourselves clinging are an indicator of the types of feelings we are running away from. In other words, the human soul says, “I don’t want to feel as an adult what I have felt as a child”.
Many people say, “I want an intimate relationship to fix my childhood lack”. This, unfortunately, does not work. Relationships were meant to complement, not complete you. Relationships were meant to enhance, not fix you. Only Jesus Christ can fix you. Only He has what you need. Only He can touch and heal what is broken inside.
Regardless of whether we are male or female, I am sure that many of us can identify with Leah. We know that deep desire that just can’t seem to be filled that extends from rejection or an injury to our soul that we barely understand.
This is the place of vulnerability for an “ungodly soul tie” to be formed.
When we consider the few things we know about Leah’s life, we can clearly see a demonic pattern of devaluation in Leah’s life. Often times, the problems we live out as adults are formed from our childhood years.
Leah has a father who does not value or validate her. As we said before, he uses her like a pawn, manipulating her for his own personal gain. The point of vulnerability for Leah is right where she has been wounded. Many of us have the same vulnerability or weakness because of being wounded. Do you see any patterns when you step back and reflect on your life? Where would your place of vulnerability be? Stay with us as we talk about how ungodly soul-ties form and how to be delivered from them once and for all, in the mighty name of Jesus.